I’ve begun to realize that you can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension all its own. – Chaim Potok, The Chosen
Sometimes, when we’re experiencing strong emotions such as fear, desire, or anger, we can become overwhelmed and not only behave incorrectly, but also waste a lot of energy expressing it (or holding it in). If your strong emotions are leaving you mentally exhausted and too tired to do the things you usually enjoy, there’s a lot you can do to improve it.
1. Get In Control of Your Energy
When you feel more in control of your emotions, it is easier to manage your energy quality, no matter what your external pressures. When unexpected challenges and relentless demands drain your energy, it is common to become insecure, anxious, impatient, and irritable. Here are some ways in which you can boost your positive energy.
Find Your Triggers
You can start by learning to recognize what triggers your negative emotions and that will help you to control your reactions.
Learn to Breathe
Take a few deep abdominal breaths and try to switch off your fight-or-fight response.
Gratitude is a great way to fuel positive emotions, so express your appreciation to others.
Change the Channel
What are the stories you keep telling yourself about you and your life? Be honest with yourself as you become aware of the fact surrounding a situation, and your interpretation of it.
2. Stop, Drop, and Process
Of course, there will be times when you can’t prevent an emotion from welling up in the heat of the moment, but you can develop skills to manage your emotions better.
Stop and think first.
Don’t act automatically when you’re overwhelmed by strong emotions, as there may be consequences you’re not considering. Take your time to find the best approach to resolve the situation.
Drop the level of your emotions.
Nobody can think clearly when they are extremely emotional. Take some time to calm down, whether it is playing with your pet, taking a walk on the beach, or simply thinking about something that triggers positive memories or emotions.
Process the facts.
What you feel on the surface may not really reflect what you feel deep down. Spend some time thinking carefully about how you feel and when you know what you’re feeling, ask yourself why? What is the underlying reason for why you feel the way you do?
The suggestions above can help prevent impulsive actions when you feel overwhelmed. Whether you’re experiencing high levels of emotion because of work, relationships or something else, use the steps above to navigate the situation, rather than to act on impulse.