Have you ever been in a situation that required every last bit of your strength, and you have felt that you just don't have enough? Have you felt that you just do not have enough strength to push that last little bit? I bet you've experienced that more than once in your life – as most of us have – and survived every time. The good news is that nobody has ever died from pushing through emotional walls. Also, we have the inner strength to take us through both emotional and physical challenges. We have so much inner strength that, if it weren't for our fallible human bodies, we could last for eons.
You've heard people say that "God will never give you more than you can handle," and when you think about it, that's true. What's the worst that can happen – death? Well, I want to inspire you to keep on pushing until you die.
“You have to rely on whatever sparks you have inside.” – Lisa Kleypas, Sugar Daddy
Ran Zilca, a research scientist, entrepreneur and author wrote an article on Psychology Today in which he explained his definition of inner strength as such: "… a strong person has great capability at facing challenges. Being strong means having the resources, the mental skills, and the physical capabilities to confront difficulties of all kinds. When you are strong, you have the ample excess of energy and stamina, so that when facing a challenge that depletes you of energy and inner strength, you still have enough left in you to act."
Inner Strength is the Polar Opposite of Aggression
In the same article, Ran goes on to explain inner strength in more detail, pointing out some myths and clearing up some confusions. He explains how, when we feel too weak to resolve issues, we use aggression and violence to fend off other people in order to avoid dealing with the real issue.
Strong people don't have to act aggressively, because they feel that they are in charge of a situation.
While inner strength comes naturally to some people, it is something that can be developed by everyone. Sometimes, it can be pushed to the back burner in the process of pleasing others and simply going with the flow.
Inner strength is vital for expansion in the world in which we live. There will always be situations that call for growth, and it is easier to go with the flow, knowing that you have the strength to get through any situation. It gives you the tools you need to handle life's ups and downs without your spirit being caught up in a constant roller coaster.
5 Tips For Building Inner Strength
Your attitude will determine how you handle life's challenges – and you have the choice about how they will play out. Here are some tips to help you build your inner strength. Use them frequently and you will be equipped for whatever comes your way.
1. Accept Yourself
Make peace with who you are. Let go of regret, guilt, and negativity. Rather look at them as tools that helped improve your life substantially.
2. Spend Time With People Who Enhance Your Journey
When you value yourself, you will choose to spend your time only with those who value you and treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
3. Do What You Love
Your passions can help you find your inner strength. Do things that make your heart smile and remember to be grateful for the gifts you have received.
4. Grow a Positive Attitude
When you come across challenges, look for lessons in every situation. Sometimes, the greatest blessings come from the greatest hardships – take childbirth for example…
5. Be Goal Oriented
Temporary setbacks can easily swallow you up into a place from which there seems to be no escape. However, by keeping your eye on your long-term goals, you can keep your chin up and seek advice, if you have to.
The Biggest Key to Finding Inner Strength is to RELAX
Are you kidding me? How do I relax when I have all this stuff going on around me?
I've asked those very questions, but I have also found (at least some of my) inner strength through deliberate relaxation. I say 'deliberate' because sometimes I just don't know when to switch off. I have the determination of bull in a China shop and I can just keep on pushing and pushing. But I've also learned that sometimes, after putting some space between myself and my challenge, I find the answers much quicker.
Lately, I've used some relaxation exercises that have helped me tremendously. I start most days with a few minutes of deep breathing and when the season is right I get outside in nature to watch whales. Not only does this relax me, but it humbles me in knowing that my "problems" are not worth stressing about in the grand scheme of things. Everything works out at the right time.
Recently, I heard Sue-Ellen say that, while in rehab, she learned to take one day at a time, because thinking about the future can be so overwhelming that it drives her to drink. I managed to shut off my mind to future worries by simply focussing on today, and that has done wonders for my inner strength. I no longer feel overwhelmed, stressed or powerless, and somehow, my stresses have actually started to sort themselves out as a result.
Do you have any power tips for improving our readers' inner strength? We'd love to hear about it in comments, below.