I was going to title this post “8 Things a Woman Needs to Make Her Happy”, but I thought better of it, and you’ll see why when you read the article. It’s not about things you need, as much as it is about enjoying what you already have.
Before we start though, I want you to grab a pen and a piece of paper. Now write down some of the things that you did yesterday….
All done? Great! Now tell me: Are you happy with the things you wrote down? Not really? Well, you’re not alone. Most of us don’t enjoy everything we do every day, and sometimes the ugly H word (hate) even makes it into the frays… That’s no good!
But there’s hope. Today I’ll share with you some of the things that you can do to live a happy, fulfilled and unbound life.
1. Savor Joyous Moments
Let go of the stress and start enjoying the things that make you feel good. Feeling good is a positive experience that will help relax your mind, enabling you to come up with better solutions for life’s challenges. Here’s how you can start small, and before you know it will snowball:
- Savor the taste and smell of your food and drinks.
- Live in the here and now, leaving the past where it is and focusing on the joys of the future, which will take care of itself.
- Write that gratitude list. Everyday comes with plenty to be thankful for.
- Focus on achieving a small goal every day.
Whatever changes your thoughts, feelings or behaviors, masters you. Let joy be your constant companion.
2. Find a Workout You Enjoy
Say what? Seriously, stay with me. You know how important exercise is to your health, and when the body is healthy, then so is the mind and a healthy mind is the breeding ground for creative ideas and unbound opportunity.
Exercise releases endorphins (happy hormones) that improve your mood and make you feel fantastic.
Don’t miss out on this amazing (and often free) way of staying healthy and happy. Find an exercise you really enjoy and ensure you do it on a regular basis.
3. Be a Supporter
A study of 5000 adults showed a correlation between their number of social contacts and healthy old age. Don’t live in isolation! Get out there, meet friends, and support them during times of needs and stress. You will get the same in return, as well as joy during the good times.
4. Develop a Sense of Humor
Laughing is good for the soul, so take some time to laugh and have fun. Whether it is making jokes, laughing at jokes, or watching a good comedy, it will help you relax and take your mind off whatever is trying to steal your peace.
Laughter helps you see the humor and positive side of life and adds to your resilience.
5. Take Time to Read
Reading is probably the best activity you can do on your own. It can inform you. It can help you escape to exotic locations. It provides endless knowledge, entertainment, inspiration, and curiosity.
Grab a book and read. It will add happiness to your life.
6. Meet a Mentor
Find someone to guide you in your career. They don’t have to share the same background or experience that you do, but they should be able to identify your mistakes, weaknesses, strengths, and your needs. Ask for instruction, encouragement, and advice and be honest if you decided to not follow her suggestions.
7. Find a Hobby
When you do something that you enjoy, you experience a state of consciousness, which is the foundation of happiness. When you live your passions, and you become absorbed in it, you can reach a higher level of consciousness.
8. Be Larger than Life
In the western world, women have more choice than ever. Coexisting, acceptance of different life choices, and tolerance mean that you can pretty much do whatever you want. Yet, many women are absorbed in an endless, consuming juggling act of working hard to look beautiful, act as society demands, being successful at work, choosing the ‘right’ life-partner, raising perfect children…. the list goes on.
Instead of perfection bringing happiness, it brings hurt, pain, and disillusionment. Yet, studies have shown that women who are most happy, are those who are involved in happy, loving relationships with family, partners, and friends. They are involved in something much larger than the materialistic demands of society.
Finding unbound joy is about living every day to the full and cherishing your health and relationships. It’s really that simple.
*Previously published in Soulwoman eMagazine. Pick up your copy of the most recent issue here.