Recently, I've felt the urge to start prioritizing what's really important to me in life. Just today I listened to an audio where Esther Hicks spoke about the importance of being "selfish." She explained how going after what makes you feel good (even if it doesn't please others), is not a matter of selfishness.
"If you're not selfish enough to want to feel good, then you can't connect with the energy that is your Source which does always feel good." — Abraham Hicks
So often we waste hours doing things to be polite. We waste hours scrolling through mind-numbing Facebook posts, reading the same old jokes from people that we only know on social media. We are connected with those people because they sent friend requests that we were too polite to decline.
Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't accept those requests or ever go on Facebook – after all, it can be a useful place to connect with people that we would not have access to in real life. We also tend to waste time in real life, listening to gossippy neighbors or friends who don't see the unbound abundance in life.
Instead, I want to highlight the importance of choosing your friends carefully – in real and in virtual life.
In order to enjoy an unbound life, we need to be able to feel free to pursue positive relationships and when faced with negativity, we should be able to transform those conversations. We need to be able to be the change we want to see in those situations, and we need to help our less vibrant friends to see the spark deep inside of us – we need to be an inspiration.
Someone wrote, in an article about how you can attract people into your life and business, that you should become an expert at repelling people. He said that when you become assertive and real (authentic), you will inevitably repel people. Those who stick around will be worth keeping.
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn
Attitudes are contagious, so when you surround yourself with successful people, you will become more successful. If you spend time with inspiring people, you will become an inspiration. Whatever you surround yourself with, is what you will become.
A person's identity drifts in the same direction as those he spends time with and that's why I want to inspire you to be (almost) ruthless in choosing your friends wisely. I'm not saying you must be rude, but you must never devalue yourself by staying in relationships that deprive the most important people of your time and hold you back. You need to spend time with people who propel you forward.
Let's take a closer look at Jim Rohn's quote, above. If you were to become the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with, who would you choose?
Some people would try to become versatile by creating crazy busy social life, by spending a little bit of time with everyone, but I believe that less is more. I'd rather have fewer valuable relationships than many superficial relationships.
5 People You MUST Have in Your Life
Of course this may be different for some people, but this is my list, and I'm sticking to it. These are the five types of people you must have in your life, as they teach you special lessons.
1. Someone You Can Envy
We're not talking green-eyed, toxic envy here. We're talking about a person you admire for his or her achievements, or for who they are. This person could be someone you know in real life or it can be someone famous, for example:
- a fitness guru who you subscribe to online because you want to learn everything he/she has to say.
- a highly successful blogging expert.
- a local business person who lives the type of lifestyle you dream about.
Why should I have this person in my life? Because he or she will remind you that you can achieve it too.
2. Someone Who Propels Your Growth
Above, I hinted that you should avoid toxic people, but sometimes we can't avoid them, because we love them. Sometimes they're not really toxic – they're just going through puberty, financial strain, a divorce, or a difficult period in life.
Why should I have this person in my life? When someone's really grating on your nerves, it is a great opportunity to look inside yourself and see what you have in common with that person. It can bring a lot of insight which you can use to expand.
3. Someone You Can Help
You may not see your gifts, but if you look around, there must be someone you could help, whether it is with advice, guidance, money, or by doing them a favour.
Why should I have this person in my life? When we do something for someone else, we make a difference. It also opens us up to receive more and it teaches us how to be grateful for the smallest things.
4. A Best Friend Forever
Having a BFF is something truly special and everyone should have one. A BFF is someone with whom you could be yourself all the time, because he/she will love you for it. They will also expect to be themselves around you, which will give you an opportunity to practice unconditional love. I've learned first hand how beneficial it can be to have a BFF who is your complete polar opposite.
Why should I have this person in my life? Spending time with someone who accepts you no matter what allows you to let your hair down completely whenever you're with them. That helps you to clear your mind and re-energize you to refocus on your goals and ambitions.
5. Someone to Love
Of course you love everyone, but you need someone you love completely, unconditionally, and with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. It could be a life partner, spouse, or even your children – or all of those. The key is that this is the person/s who help you to grow and expand.
Why should I have this person in my life? This person or people will always provide you with opportunities to show your unconditional love. Together, you will work through life's ups and downs, and you will be one another's soft place to fall.
Use this as a guideline to work with when you start prioritizing how you spend your time, and you will immediately feel much more free open to experience unbound love in your life.